Etiquette sounds so much of common sense, but not everyone understands what is actually means.

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We may all know the definition of Etiquette but, applying it before or while having a meal, is the hardest part.

The simple rules like:

No talking with a mouth full, or having your bag or cell phone at the table and the like may seem cliche, but the most crucial part and the right kind of questions you should ask yourself before dining out either for a business meeting or a personal level  are: Do you know how or where to wear your napkin?, who pays after a business meal? Where to place the napkin when you stand? and /or how to order for that perfect bottle of wine within your budget?

Pros:

ALWAYS

  1. Set up payments ahead of time – if you are the host.

    It is always dapper or clever to make hotel reservations way ahead of time. If you are the host, give out your credit card before your guest arrive. {Know what your worth}. In other circumstances “The person who invites always gets to pay 100%, no going Dutch”.

  2. Always let your guests order first.

When the waiter/waitress walks by your table and requests to take your order,  this is the right way to place your order. “Will you please bring my guest…….” then let your guest make their order.

3. Know which utensils to use.

Its C.S {Common Sense} to know that each course has its own utensils. All of them may already be in front of you or will be placed in front of you as the dishes are served.

The largest fork is generally the entrée fork. The salad fork is smaller. The largest spoon is usually the soup spoon. If you are having a fish course, you may see the fish knife and fork as part of the place setting. The utensils above the plate are the dessert fork and spoon, although these may sometimes be placed on either side of the plate or brought in with the dessert.”

4. Use “BMW” to remember where plates and glasses go.

BMW here stands for “bread, meal, and water,” so remember that “your bread-and-butter plate is on the left, the meal is in the middle, and your water glass is on the right

5. Always break bread with your hands.

Its not advisable to use your knife to cut your rolls at a business dinner. “Break your roll in half and tear off one piece at a time, and butter the piece as you are ready to eat it.

6. Know the “rest” and “finished” positions.

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Place your knife and fork in the rest position (knife near the top of plate, fork across middle of plate) to let the waiter know you are resting, “Use the finished position (fork below the knife, diagonally across the plate) to indicate that you have finished eating.

7. It okay to take pictures of the food.

If done discretely, it recommended to take food pictures if you are dining with friends, but totally not recommend this stunt when with Clients.

8. Know where to place the napkins.

Like other families, it rude to eat before praying, but with this, It definitely RUDE to eat with your napkin still on the table. As the host, “It starts with you” to signal by placing the napkin on your lap before digging in.

When you done eating, the Napkin always, goes to your left hand side. Neatly folded.

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When you need to leave the table, the napkin goes on the chair seat.

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9. Its polite to order the same number of courses as your guest.

I am slightly against this rule, for my reason being… “I may be allergic to what my guests are having. eg. I cannot stand the smell leave alone eating sea foods. I just can’t.

The main reason for this guideline,: is probably your guest are having a 3 course meal, while you have dessert. You totally want to avoid all the awkwardness. It may also seem you can’t afford the meals. #Stillawkward.

“When you go to Rome do what the Romans do”.

10. Take time to chew food.

“Haraka haraka haina baraka”.

Take time while eating. Pause after every few bites. Especially, if you are the host- you don’t want to make your guest feel rushed.

11. Remember the simple table manners.

Sit up straight, and keep your hands and elbows off the table.

Butter your bread on your plait, never in mid air {Holding it in the air}.

Look into your glass or water or wine but not over it.

Cut one piece of any meat your having at a time, eat it before cutting another.

Wipe your fingers and mouth often with the napkin.

Cons:

NEVER

1.  Never pull out someone’s chair for them.

It’s OK to hold open a door for your guest, but you shouldn’t pull someone’s chair out for them, regardless of gender. In a business setting, you should leave those gender-ed social rules behind.

2. Never return the wine {Drink}

The rule is, “Once the wine or “Drink” has been brought over to your table, NEVER Return it back. Know what your ordering from the word go. However, if the drink is that BAD, handle it with class. Call up the waiter {who initially served you} and explain the problem, then politely ask for another.

3. Never reach out across the table to sample a different meal.

Its not recommendable to share a meal with someone you don’t know that well. Stick to what you ordered.

However, if you are with someone you quite know well, using the bread plate, place a sample on it and pass it till it get to the other person.

4. Never yell at the waiter.

The are humans too.

Try making eye contact with them, if that doesn’t work, raise your hand mid way in the air with your index finger. This will alert them to come to your table. Politely explain the problem.

5. Never push away or stack your dishes.

Let the wait staff do their jobs. Stacking up plates or pushing them away isn’t your duty. Leave them in front of you, and wait for them to be collected.

6. Never ask for a to -go box.

I will be honest. I dint know of this guideline.

This is not recommended if you are on a business meeting/dinner. Keep in mind, You are there for business, not for the leftovers. {LOL} Harsh as it may sound, it quite true.

Learning new things everyday is growth.

CHEERS TO THE WEEKEND

Love and Love.

Feel free to remind me if I have forgotten crucial guidelines while dining out, by leaving a comment down below.

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  • Gloria

    thanks for the tips, clearly i didnt know there is a ‘resting’ and ‘finishing’ style. A quick one, should one order boneless chicken or you can just get dirty with your hands on chicken with bone? there’s usually that ‘chicken-fork’ scenario.

    • Tastie Dine

      Hi Gloria, eating chicken depends on whether the meal is formal, informal or as a family fun day. > At a formal dinner, chicken is eaten with a knife and fork.
      > At an informal meal, the knife and fork are used to remove as much meat from the chicken as possible, though to eat the rest of the meat the bones are held with fingers and you feast properly.
      > At a family meal, chicken with bone are eaten both with a fork and fingers.

    • Tastie Dine

      Hi Akinyi,
      Glad I could be of help. #Practice

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